"You're Not Fat"

I never understood why some women make it a point to fish for compliments every time I see them. Sometimes it happens in a public setting and I am just embarrassed for that person. I am sure you all know what I am talking about. You are out to dinner or having drinks with a friend and then it happens "ohh what a cute shirt, I wish I could wear that but I am too fat"...and your response "ohhh, no you're not!". You can easily replace any "fat" statement with "bony", "ugly hair", "stupid", etc.

If you are the one blurting out any of these statements, you are doing more harm than good not to mention you're making the world uncomfortable. By using such statements, you/your friend, is showing the world they have zero self-esteem. If you don't like yourself, who is going to like you? You are also telling the world that you NEED to hear nice things, on command, to feel better. That is an ass-backward way to live your life.

Don't get me wrong, it is nice to hear nice things from your friends every now and again. Especially regarding the trouble areas on our bodies, but trust me, it will mean more if you don't poke to get them to give you a compliment. If you are the one listening to a friend say these things about herself, it may be worth the time to talk to them about their own self-esteem. I know, easier said than done.

Bottom line is this, you need to love yourself, even when you want to hate yourself because that is the only way you will plow through regret, anger and disappointment that you may feel for your actions. Even the strongest of women need help with this, myself included.

Happy New Year! Here's to a better you and me.