When Not to be "Jabber Jaws"

I must say that I am guilty of doing this myself. I have gotten better over the years but I still make the same mistake time and time again.

What mistake you ask?

Well, I have the habit of complaining about my husband to my sister...and my sister to my husband, when either of them piss me off. The reason this is such a big deal is because I feel that when I show anger toward one of them, the other is quick is run to my defense, agree with me and deep down will hold it against that person even though I am well over the issue.

I must admit I have been on the other side of this spectacule too. When a friend of mine will complain about her hubby, I must admit that the next time I see that girl's hubby, I think of the issue she told me about...I don't say anything...but think about it.

So I ask, is it better to let it out or keep it in?

Let's start with option #1, we let it out. Now our sisters and friends will no doubt look at our hubby's differently (depending on the dirt). They will give their opinion and make judgements and let's face it, at the end of the day, they will talk about the situation to other people. Definitely a negative.

Option #2, we keep it in. Now we play and replay the issue in our mind and it makes us nuts, or we just get over the issue.

I think we have a clear winner. Option #2. Now I just need to practice what I preach. Easier said than done. Do you have experiences with this issue? Do you let it out or hold it in...or do you have people in your life that can really keep their mouth shut??